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post #1 of 62 (permalink) Old 08-19-2004, 08:44 AM Thread Starter
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rant: so pissed off

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I just need to vent a little here....

I don't even know the point of this thread, I'm just so damn disappointed and mad at the same time.

Just broke up with my girlfriend yesterday and I don't have a clue what the hell happened. I'm 29 and have had plenty of girlfriends, but never anyone like her. She was the closest person to perfect I have ever found and everything was going fucking GREAT. Then out of the blue, it just went south, and it was the typically female blowoffs. I honestly think it had something to do with her EX, but she basically just got distant and appartenly doesn't have mutual feelings anymore. How the heck do people turn about face like that, because I KNOW it was real before that point.

WTF, I'm sooooo sick of starting over again!

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I probably sound like a whiner, but is anyone else out there know what I mean. It's like this shit never ends, and now the bar is raised so high, I don't know if I'll ever find someone even close to her again.

I swear, I'm getting too old for this shit.....

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post #2 of 62 (permalink) Old 08-19-2004, 08:48 AM
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Something like that happened to me some time ago. I feel your pain. Women are crazy sometimes.

Just don't call her, until she does.
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Been thru that before bro. Just gotta learn to enjoy life afterwards and move on. Sooner or later that special someone pops into your life again. I went thru this same shit last year at this time so I know what your talking about.

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Women are crazy sometimes.

Just don't call her, until she does.
Don't even answer when she does, It plays out for a few months and then ya will get tired of it.


I'm sick of following my dreams. I'm just going to ask them where they're goin', and hook up with them later!!
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i hear ya dude, i've had some bad times with long term girlfriends, just putting a couple cents here for what its worth, from what i've found things are often more complicated that it seems on the surface, i'd expect some communication problems as it seems she wasn't open with you on how she actually felt, i'd say odds are that it will turn out better for you in the long run without her if she left on those sorts of terms without a lot of notice

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I know exactly how you feel, man. My first fiancee did that to me. I made the mistake of changing my entire life for her. We were together about a year and then in a period of a week she did a 180. It sucks ass, I know.

I know you don't want to hear the "time heals all wounds" and the "there's more fish in the sea" shit... but they are true.

Just keep riding and hanging out with your friends. When you're not looking you'll find a woman.

Hell, you ride a Kawasaki, I'm surprised women aren't throwing themselves at you!

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I say that if you felt like she was close to perfect that says a lot. I feel like you guys lacked communication, maybe something else was going on with her life.

Did you break up with her? or vice-versa. I say if you did something in the heat of the moment, maybe step back and try to talk it out. If she broke it off, do not answer her calls for a while.

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if she wants to play like that, whatever you do-- don't let her think it affected you. wait until she initiates contact. let her know that you're in control and you don't need her.
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Don't even answer when she does, It plays out for a few months and then ya will get tired of it.
similar sentiments, better to let go and move on

my last x whom i was hopelessly in love (and we were together 3 years) with lost that lovin feeling so to speak while i was all into her, we even took a road trip when we were "broken up", talk about a disaster but i was so wacked out i just "couldn't live without her", but down the road like Chills' time cliche i've realized that i believed i was happy with her when in fact i was not, bizarre stuff happiness
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I guess I forgot a few details....

I went through this same thing a year ago (and 2 years ago!)with my then live-in girlfriend of 5 years. I've been through the whole 'time heals' and that stuff.

The latest girl was only a 2 month relationship, but in that short time I (thought) I had found someone that was a perfect match. She was 10x better in every way then my last ex, and these are the only 2 girls I've ever actually loved. I know this one was short, but god damn, I never knew it could be like that. We had everything in common, and damn, talk about the best sex. Ever.

She lost interest all of a sudden, and mean out of nowhere. I've never been that close to someone and then have them pull away so quickly. And don't worry, I'm not going to call her. She'll be overseas on vacation for 2 weeks, so we'll see if she calls me when she gets home or not, but judging by the conversation (and my past experiences) I highly doubt I'll her from her.

So I know I'll get over it, and there's another girl, and etc... but I'm just tired of losing people I care about and having to start over again. It'll probably be years again before I find someone that I have these feelings for....

It's just aggrevating.......

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Hell, you ride a Kawasaki, I'm surprised women aren't throwing themselves at you!
Chills, just cause you hit a blind woman doesn't mean she saw your bike and was throwing herself at you



honestly there are more fish in the sea and she wasnt' worth your time anyways yeah thats what everyone says..

chin up things will get better when you find a new hottie that makes the old girlfreind jelous.

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I say that if you felt like she was close to perfect that says a lot.
I didn't mean in a childhood crush 'perfect' sort of way.

But as in if I could design a women from looks, to personality, to interest, to family, to friends, etc.... then she scored so rediciously high. I guess we weren't that good a match once things got past the inital stages, but it sure didn't seem like that.

The whole relationship was like, WOW. Then poof....gone. I guess it was too good to be true....

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This is why I only date fat chicks, they appreciate it more.

For some reason it seems like the less interested you are in them the more interested they are in you. This applies to women in general not just the fatties. Like everyone else said don't call her.

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How the heck do people turn about face like that, because I KNOW it was real before that point.
It's because women, compared to men, are very fickle with their feelings. We can attach much more quickly than men, and our attachments typically aren't as enduring and solid as men's. Haven't you ever seen girls who have never met each other suddenly telling each other their life stories? Yet men take FOREVER to open up to anyone.

When men attach, it takes longer, but when they attach, THEY ATTACH. Women can fall in love in a day and then fall out of love again the next day.

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whatever you do-- don't let her think it affected you.
See, when guys hide their emotions, it makes girls think it's OK to leave/withdraw. Being phony gets people nowhere. I mean, DON'T stalk her or act pathetic, but I know I've questioned my decision to withdraw by a guy's sincerity afterwards...

If it does have something to do with her ex, there's a chance that she's just living in the past or trying to reconcile some grievance that has not been laid to rest with this guy...once they break up again (which they will) she'll be calling you again...
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This may sound a bit harsh, maybe not but dude, your 29, so am I, your still young. You have a lot of time to get over this, and you will, just dont try to force the issue on finding the next one. Enjoy being single while you are. I've told my wife that if anything ever happened to us god forbid, that I'll be done with women, and I will be. As much as I remember how bad I wanted to find a girl before I met her, I also remember how I could do anything that I wanted to at the drop of a dime. I love my family, I truly do. But there's a lot to be said for being single as well.

This isn't the end of the world, enjoy being young and single while you are, because my guess is that it won't last for long.

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For some reason it seems like the less interested you are in them the more interested they are in you.
Yeah , that's so true. Women like assholes, because they instinctively like challenges.

Whenever they say they are waiting for their cute, charming prince to arrive, it's just bullshit

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"you need to find another girl that looks just like her, nail her, and dump her!" from the movie "say anything" with john cusack.

keep your head up man. things always get better.
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Re: rant: so pissed off

WTF, I'm sooooo sick of starting over again!


I swear, I'm getting too old for this shit..... [/B][/QUOTE]
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dude, i so hear you here man. i'm 29 and i'm done with the b.s.!
stayin' single for life man, it's the only way to go bro.

cheer up kid and let's go get a beer.

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Well just went throught the exact same thing, in almost the same manner, But like everyone is saying, you have to move on, it's not easy, and it's not fun starting all over, but we have no choice. in my situation, i decided to find more things to do, from taking more classes in college too working two jobs. What ever helps keep the mind off the ex... Keep your head up, and don't forget there are many fish in the sea, and the sea is big, so when the times right you will find that person that yor meant to be with.

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I feel for ya shadrach. Something similar happened to me about two years ago. Whirlwind relationship with a girl that couldn't have been more perfect for me if I had designed her myself.

For about 6 months I don't think either of us even took time to sleep we were having so much fun. It was intense, and I know what you mean when you say "perfect". That's exactly how it felt...

Then one day I got back from a snowboarding trip - and instead of the 'welcome home sex' I was dreaming about on the plane...I get the "umm...we need to talk about something". Bummer.

I was completely taken by suprise. Found out some time later that her long time ex had been talking to her the whole time - and even moved back to the state to give it another try etc. etc. Tough to compete against a 5 year history that they had.

ANYWAY - that's not making you feel better.

Point is it's been awhile, and though there've been quite a few girls in my life (even more in my bed ) since, none of them have come close to setting off the same sparks. I'm sure I'll find a better version of "perfect" eventually. In the meantime I'm content to keep playing around while I wait patiently.

That gut wrenching sensation goes away eventually. The sooner you can start moving the better off you'll be.

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She'll be overseas on vacation for 2 weeks, so we'll see if she calls me when she gets home or not, but judging by the conversation (and my past experiences) I highly doubt I'll her from her.

Maybe she broke it off before she went overseas! Maybe she wanted to sow her wild oats so to say? And not feel guilty from cheating on you? IMO......

And I feel for you to bro. There is not enough hard drive space to tell my story`s! All I can say it sucks bad. and when you are not looking so hard is when you will find someone great!

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I have the remedy.

Post the porn and some crafty camera shots you were planning to send to Hustler.

We all know you have them and I assure you, this will make you feel much better.

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That gut wrenching sensation goes away eventually. The sooner you can start moving the better off you'll be.
that gut wrenching feeling sure does suck, and like underdog say's will go away eventually. but i think he meant to say, " the sooner you can start riding , the better off you'll be.
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I have the remedy.

We all know you have them and I assure you, this will make you feel much better.
And others will be glad you did it as well

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that gut wrenching feeling sure does suck, and like underdog say's will go away eventually. but i think he meant to say, " the sooner you can start riding , the better off you'll be.
I signed up for the Edge Performance school at BHF next Monday. That ought to occupy my mind for some time.

And to all the good advice: I totally get it, I'm just complaining I guess. I've been 'enjoying' my single life, but I've never been happier in my life then when I've had someone close to share things and experiences with. Granted, I love my hobbies and the time I spend doing things solo, but only in conjunction with the other stuff. I'm just getting tired of talking to myself LOL

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This is nothing a couple of Poser Rides can't fix This is the exact reason all men should get at least one naked photo of their girlfriend. In times like these, it can be very satisfying to post that picture all over the internet. It helps let the healing begin

Ok, all joking aside, you may be able to salvage the relationship. Whether it be through counseling or just the two of you talking it out. At least, it would give you closure to the issue. Without closure, you will bore the ears off the next girl you date with stories of your past relationships and how you are just looking for someone to settle down with. Good luck with everything.

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That gut wrenching sensation goes away eventually.
Yeah, that...I didn't eat for three days from that...and then ate like a bird for a couple months.

The heartbreak diet had me lookin' GOOD though! Maybe I should get my heart broken again...
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maybe she left ya for a dude with a Ninja 500. Get a Hayabusa and do a big fucking burnout in front of her house and yell her name while doing it.
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That sucks dude, but I'm sure you'll be fine...

Just keep an eye out. For some people, myself included, being single is like bein on a desert island. Just keep your eyes open and "Next" will be along shortly!

And drink alot! Chicks dig drunk guys!
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maybe she left ya for a dude with a Ninja 500. Get a Hayabusa and do a big fucking burnout in front of her house and yell her name while doing it.
new bike baby..... i've heard that really helps alot at a time like this.
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