Student Teacher Relations
I have been having problems with one of my teachers making inappropriate comments towards me in class. He does it in front of all the other students, and it makes them uncomfortable as well, because they know thats its wrong too. It has been going on all semester, but nothing really bad until last Tuesday.
We were talking about getting and holding a welding job, and he started talking about how when going to an interview we should be clean shaven. Then he turned to me and said "That means you need to shave your legs and armpits." He continued by saying "I bet she doesnt even shave her armpits." He found it hilariously funny, but I was fuming and the rest of the class didnt even know what to say.
Then a little while later we were talking about different types of personalities. He said he had taken a personality test and one of the questions was about how you slept at night. He asked me how I slept, and being a blonde, I didnt get right away that it was said in a sexual manner. So I answered that I slept on my side because I was used to my dogs cuddling up next to me. Doug then said, "That makes you a caregiver, I bet you are great with kids." Im horrible with kids, and told him so, so he said "Then I hope you are on birth control." It doenst sound like a big thing, but the way he said it, his tone of voice, was rude and made me feel like shit. I dont know how to explain it. I really didnt know what to say to that one, and just looked at my friend Ethan for help, he was bright red and obviously pissed too.
Next, he talked about wearing clean clothes, and mentioned that I wore Wranglers every day. Which is true. But the only way he would know that is if he was looking at the back pockets where the Wrangler logo is. And if hes looking at the back pockets...hes probably not looking at my back pockets.
Other comments were made about me going out with all kinds of boys and going dancing all night. He said he bet I was at The Ranch (a big country bar in town) every night with a different guy. He has also asked Ethan if we had ever "hooked up", and expressed interest in details.
Last but not least, I hurt my hand and needed an icepack. He held the icepack on my hand, saying "Look, I get to hold her hand." Then rubbed my palm with his thumb a little.
All of this happened last Tuesday. I didnt go to class on Thurs because I didnt want to be around him. Today Ethan finally convinced me to go talk to the Dean of Students and hopefully get it taken care of, because it was really bothering me. I talked to the Dean today and he was really nice. He didnt turn it into a big deal, but promised to get it taken care of. I actually felt like he was on my side, which was not really what I expected.
Do you guys think that I am making a big deal out of nothing, or is this more serious? I have never been in this situation and dont really know what to think or do. I told my mom a few of the things he said and she was a little upset, but I really didnt tell her anything. She knows I dont like him, but has never asked me any questions. Im afraid that the school will end up taking his side, or that they will think I am making it up because I am one weld behind in my class. I really am uncomfortable around him, but what if Im just blowing things out of proportion? Grrr, this is frustrating. Anyway, if anyone has some advice, I would really apprechiate it.