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post #1 of 135 (permalink) Old 01-28-2008, 08:38 AM Thread Starter
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"What Happened to All the Nice Guys?"
I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section, so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven't figured it out.

What happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: you did.

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were fucking treated you.

At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"

Well, once again, you did.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.

Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.

So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:

1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.

If you were five years younger.

So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've fucked yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the bullshit and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't fucking want you, now.

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post #2 of 135 (permalink) Old 01-28-2008, 08:47 AM
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You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't fucking want you, now.
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nice guys finish last is just a term used by ugly guys who cant get any.

wait a minute....

read that article before, its crazy true

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I'm telling you fools.. the nice guy method isn't the way to go. On your first date.. just bust out your cawk onto the dinner table and be like "Bitch, you're gonna take it... TAKE IT"

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I'm telling you fools.. the nice guy method isn't the way to go. On your first date.. just bust out your cawk onto the dinner table and be like "Bitch, you're gonna take it... TAKE IT"
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He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.
my favorite nice guy quote is

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A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired.

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I'm telling you fools.. the nice guy method isn't the way to go. On your first date.. just bust out your cawk onto the dinner table and be like "Bitch, you're gonna take it... TAKE IT"
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Thanks to all the nice guys who posted above....it was a pleasure fuckin all your "friends" over the years.
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Brilliant! A mod should sticky that in the women's forum

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Thanks to all the nice guys who posted above....it was a pleasure fuckin all your "friends" over the years.
hahahaha, no shit!! the original article writer needs to grow a sack.

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There are a couple women I could think of sending this too, but I hate making girls cry. Too much of a nice guy...

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There are a couple women I could think of sending this too, but I hate making girls cry. Too much of a nice guy...
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It's all about the hit and run baby...

Make it the nice guys problem.. not yours!

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lol, i'm sending this to all the whiny bitches at my work.

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lol, i'm sending this to all the whiny bitches at my work.
Let me see your Oh face.. OH OH OH.. you big queer

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Queer? You're the one asking me for an invite to watch a movie, ya general tso eatin' mahfucker!

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I don't want to start a war or anything but where are the girls in this thread? Pinkrider? Jackpot? anyone? not even ill_ag has a little sumpn sumpn to say? I'm suprised this thing hasn't turned in to an instant 500 post thread.
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hahahaha, no shit!! the original article writer needs to grow a sack.
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I don't want to start a war or anything but where are the girls in this thread?
That better?


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