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#22 ·
gconsier said:
Very early on in my relationship with my wife I told her if she ever came home, and saw a big huge box in the garage that said "troy-bilt" on it. That meant "Shut Up!"


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Good god man!


Fargo FTW!
 
#23 ·
At least you got served court papers in the mail. I got served at work!
 
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First of all, if you did have a change in income your ex is allowed to ask for an increase in child support including back child support from the day you started making more money... and yes the judge will grant it to her. Now on the other end, if you ever make less money you can ask that the child support be decreased. For the tax returns, most likely the judge won't change that since it was already agreed to in the divorce. She's probably just pissed cause she's not getting the extra $300 stimulus check for claiming a child.

Secondly, just because she married a rich man it doesn't mean he pays a penny for the child. He probably doesn't want to support the child which is why she is asking you for more money. Hells, the fact she doesn't have a lawyer makes it seem like the sugar daddy doesn't let her spend his money either. :laughing:

BTW- Good luck hiring a lawyer and only spending $10k on it. From the sounds of this chick she is crazy and is just trying to piss you off so most likely this would drag on a long time. I'm on the opposite side and my ex husband was dragging out the custody case even tho he's the one who sued me and it's almost two years later and over $75k in legal bills I've paid.


For anyone else who is bitching about what you pay in child support, you seriously need to STFU. :flip Children are expensive and if you can't afford them or didn't want to have them then you should have worn a fucking condom. I fucking hate hearing guys bitch about paying child support. If the amount was court ordered, then obviously there is a reason for the amount set and the judge says you can afford it. It might seem like you are paying a lot of money to your ex but I'm sure it's not enough to cover half the expenses. Child support covers a portion of the rent/mortgage of the home the child lives in, the utilities for the home, groceries, clothing, school supplies, field trip expenses, gas for driving the child to and from school/day care/doctors visits/etc., cold medicine/prescriptions, toiletries, diapers, formula... I can keep going because there are a ton of other small misc expenses that I'm sure you don't think about. Chances are your ex is still spending more than you are on your child.
 
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pinkrider said:
First of all, if you did have a change in income your ex is allowed to ask for an increase in child support including back child support from the day you started making more money... and yes the judge will grant it to her. Now on the other end, if you ever make less money you can ask that the child support be decreased. For the tax returns, most likely the judge won't change that since it was already agreed to in the divorce. She's probably just pissed cause she's not getting the extra $300 stimulus check for claiming a child.

Secondly, just because she married a rich man it doesn't mean he pays a penny for the child. He probably doesn't want to support the child which is why she is asking you for more money. Hells, the fact she doesn't have a lawyer makes it seem like the sugar daddy doesn't let her spend his money either. :laughing:

BTW- Good luck hiring a lawyer and only spending $10k on it. From the sounds of this chick she is crazy and is just trying to piss you off so most likely this would drag on a long time. I'm on the opposite side and my ex husband was dragging out the custody case even tho he's the one who sued me and it's almost two years later and over $75k in legal bills I've paid.


For anyone else who is bitching about what you pay in child support, you seriously need to STFU. :flip Children are expensive and if you can't afford them or didn't want to have them then you should have worn a fucking condom. I fucking hate hearing guys bitch about paying child support. If the amount was court ordered, then obviously there is a reason for the amount set and the judge says you can afford it. It might seem like you are paying a lot of money to your ex but I'm sure it's not enough to cover half the expenses. Child support covers a portion of the rent/mortgage of the home the child lives in, the utilities for the home, groceries, clothing, school supplies, field trip expenses, gas for driving the child to and from school/day care/doctors visits/etc., cold medicine/prescriptions, toiletries, diapers, formula... I can keep going because there are a ton of other small misc expenses that I'm sure you don't think about. Chances are your ex is still spending more than you are on your child.
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+1 to the above Vagina monologue...:lmao: :jester j/k j/k don't hurt me!! I wouldn't have made it through high school without financial support from BOTH parents.
 
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pinkrider said:
Child support covers a portion of the rent/mortgage of the home the child lives in, the utilities for the home, groceries, clothing, school supplies, field trip expenses, gas for driving the child to and from school/day care/doctors visits/etc., cold medicine/prescriptions, toiletries, diapers, formula... I can keep going because there are a ton of other small misc expenses that I'm sure you don't think about. Chances are your ex is still spending more than you are on your child.
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And that all increases and decreases as you make more or less money? Luckily I'm not in this position, but it seems strange to me to think if you all of a sudden make more money after getting divorced, that you should pay more court-ordered support to your spouse.

I understand providing for your kid, and if you make more and are better off then you can afford to get them the snow board equipment, take them on trips, etc. but why should that mean you should be ordered to give your ex more money so they get to determine how the money should be used.
 
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Jack said:
And that all increases and decreases as you make more or less money? Luckily I'm not in this position, but it seems strange to me to think if you all of a sudden make more money after getting divorced, that you should pay more court-ordered support to your spouse.

I understand providing for your kid, and if you make more and are better off then you can afford to get them the snow board equipment, take them on trips, etc. but why should that mean you should be ordered to give your ex more money so they get to determine how the money should be used.
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don't question the 'merkun civil system :jester:

that's how it is.
 
#32 ·
I love my wife and my kids. Got married in 81, still going strong. It amazes me that people don't spend enough effort in either mate selection, or in developing strong healthy long-term relationships. Both require a significant amount of effort.

I wish you all the best in your next relationship, and hope that you get an opportunity to work this out for the best for all concerned.
 
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kcaarider said:
+1 to the above Vagina monologue...:lmao: :jester j/k j/k don't hurt me!! I wouldn't have made it through high school without financial support from BOTH parents.
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:lmao: Vagina Monolgue.. :laughing:

hawkmonie said:
So I knew about the changing employers but if you get a raise you have to notify child support services? Just asking for my knowledge for the future.
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Well you are supposed to tell them but a lot of people don't. If your ex decides to go to court or the enforcement agency and ask for an update on your wages and they find out you are making a substantial amount more than when the original order was entered then they will change the amount of the child support and also deduct additional money from each paycheck to cover the back amount due.

Jack said:
And that all increases and decreases as you make more or less money? Luckily I'm not in this position, but it seems strange to me to think if you all of a sudden make more money after getting divorced, that you should pay more court-ordered support to your spouse. I understand providing for your kid, and if you make more and are better off then you can afford to get them the snow board equipment, take them on trips, etc. rather than giving it to the spouse to determine how the money should be used.
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Well the general rule of thumb is that if the non-custodial parent is making more money and living a better lifestyle, the child should too. So additional money in child support will allow the custodial parent to buy nicer things for the child.

Unfortunately, the custodial parent can spend the child support money any way they want. I have heard of a few moms who buy their child the cheapest food they can and only buys clothes from secondhand stores yet they go out and buy designer shoes or purses with the child support money. That's total BS. :(
 
#34 ·
What's sad about the system is sometimes the less suitable parent gets awarded more of the custody b/c of gender then neglects spending time with the child(ren) than the more suitable parent could have done. A book could be written about all the intricacies that arrise from the failure of a marriage when children are involved, but +1 to what Wink said. "choose your mate wisely". You only want to do it once and don't rush into it.
 
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pinkrider said:
Unfortunately, the custodial parent can spend the child support money any way they want. I have heard of a few moms who buy their child the cheapest food they can and only buys clothes from secondhand stores yet they go out and buy designer shoes or purses with the child support money. That's total BS. :(
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That is exactly why I posted this thread:

http://www.chicagolandsportbikes.com/forums/showthread.php?t=70189

I want to make sure that my son is getting what I'm paying for. If I had it my way I would want receipts, then I would reimburse her for that amount. That way I KNOW its going to him. Not that she would do that to me. I'm just sayin. But like Geewiz said, 17 yrs and all of sudden his baby's mama wants payback. So you never know.
 
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It's a freaking shame.......

Lucky for me I DID keep receipts. It's going to be interesting what the courts will say.
17.5 years I was 110% there and this lady wants to pull some stupid sh%t cause she knows the gravy train is leaving the station......

sheesh.......
 
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pinkrider said:
First of all, if you did have a change in income your ex is allowed to ask for an increase in child support including back child support from the day you started making more money... and yes the judge will grant it to her. Now on the other end, if you ever make less money you can ask that the child support be decreased. For the tax returns, most likely the judge won't change that since it was already agreed to in the divorce. She's probably just pissed cause she's not getting the extra $300 stimulus check for claiming a child.

Secondly, just because she married a rich man it doesn't mean he pays a penny for the child. He probably doesn't want to support the child which is why she is asking you for more money. Hells, the fact she doesn't have a lawyer makes it seem like the sugar daddy doesn't let her spend his money either. :laughing:

BTW- Good luck hiring a lawyer and only spending $10k on it. From the sounds of this chick she is crazy and is just trying to piss you off so most likely this would drag on a long time. I'm on the opposite side and my ex husband was dragging out the custody case even tho he's the one who sued me and it's almost two years later and over $75k in legal bills I've paid
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I spent 5k to get it reduced...thing is she is going PRO SE. If you look at the law ILCS 750 5/505 there is NO PROVISION for the reporting of an increase..besides I work 1099...my income fluctuates...there is no way to accurately determine when I started making more money or if i even had...child support is not up for periodic review. I am under absolutely NO obligation to report anything UNTIL i am served with papers to do so...then she can only go back as far as the filing. If I reported every change of income I would never get outta court... I'm gonna cut her a deal and be done with it.
Oooh by the way...My tax returns are water tight...a family court judge CANNOT question the validity or the accuracy...thats tax court jurisdiction. If we go by what I claimed to the IRS she'll get double what she got last year.
 
#38 ·
geewiz said:
It's a freaking shame.......

Lucky for me I DID keep receipts. It's going to be interesting what the courts will say.
17.5 years I was 110% there and this lady wants to pull some stupid sh%t cause she knows the gravy train is leaving the station......

sheesh.......
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Wow!!! That is so fucked up! It's a good thing you kept receipts then. Hopefully the judge will be okay with all the receipts and will throw the case out. I keep receipts on everything my ex pays to me too. Every once in a while he will be nice and pay for half of day care like he's supposed to and I copy the check so he can't claim he paid me more than he really did. I also copied the whole 3 checks I got for child support over the last 6 years... lol. a whopping $951. :laughing:
 
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fuggdatnoyz said:
If we go by what I claimed to the IRS she'll get double what she got last year.
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WTF? So you are falsely reporting to her, the judge, child support enforcement agency or whoever that your income is lower than it really is? I don't care if you think $8k a year is enough to support your child, that is a total scumbag move. God I hope I misunderstood what you wrote.
 
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